Letting Go Of Birth Fears

I had a discussion with my best friend Laura yesterday that was thought provoking and helped me work some things out in my head (my conversations with her often are like that, she's my ROCK). I've been dwelling a little bit on the 'what ifs' in this birth which is not like me. I realized that I need to make a few birth plans. One for pre-term labor in the hospital and ensuing vaginal birth. One for how to handle a transfer. And one for emergent C-section. I have all these things tumbling around inside my head and so I bring it up often. Laura was really concerned that I was focusing on it too much, and would invite the very scenario that I fear into my life. While I see her point, I don't really think that's it. I'm an "action" kind of person. I need to get these fears named and dealt with and then I can let them go. While I am planning for and looking forward to another wonderful home birth, I have to face the reality that sometimes women do everything "right" and still have their twins early. While it certainly stacks the odds in my favor to eat all the impossible amounts of protein and to drink gallons of water a day it's not a guarantee that everything will go smoothly. Birth is wild and untamed. It's not going to be put in a box and told how to behave! This is true with any birth, of course, but it's especially true when you are dealing with an extra body. So I'm going to meet with Delilah and work through this stuff so that I can allow it to seep from my mind onto paper (or keyboard!) and focus on the task of keeping my body well supported.

I found a new pregnancy calendar, aimed specifically at twin moms! Not with the fun diagrams though, but still with more pertinent information than the Babycenter garbage.

Twins Calendar – Weeks 21 through 24

Babies’ Growth.

Each twin’s weight gain during this period is substantial, doubling again to about twenty ounces each (1.25 pounds), and to a length of about twelve inches. Your twins’ skin appears red and wrinkled because of the absence of fat beneath the skin, but by the end of the month, the growth makes the babies appear in better proportion. By the end of the twenty-fourth week distinctive footprints and fingerprints have been formed.

Mother’s Changes.

The rapid growth during the past eight weeks stretches the abdomen, causing pinkish or reddish streaks in the skin, called striae, or stretch marks. After delivery, they will fade to a light silver color, but will not disappear completely. Another skin change that may occur in some women is a brownish discoloration on the face, called chloasma, or the mask of pregnancy. This, too, fades after delivery. Most women generally feel warmer than before they became pregnant because of an increase in both the metabolic rate and sweat gland activity. This second adaptation aids in the elimination of the additional waste materials from the baby.

By the end of the second trimester, your blood volume has increased by one hundred percent or more over your non-pregnant levels. Red blood cells, which carry oxygen throughout the body, have increased by 50 to 60 percent. If the level of iron in your red blood cells fall too low, iron-deficiency anemia develops. Symptoms include fatigue, lightheadedness, pallor, and shortness of breath. Untreated, anemia can adversely affect the growth of your babies, and also increase your own risks for complications both during and after the birth.

Multiple Facts.

• Fraternal twins result when the mother produces two eggs instead of one in the normal monthly cycle, and the eggs are fertilized by separate sperm. Fraternal twins are called dizygotic (DZ) meaning that they developed from two separate zygotes.
• Sharing on average 50 percent of their genes, fraternal twins are no more alike genetically than are non-twin siblings. That’s why fraternal twins should not be expected to have the same appearance, personality, intelligence level, or rate of growth and development any more than singleton brothers and sisters would.